Moving into aged care

Transitioning from home into an aged care centre is a significant life event that can bring about a range of emotions and challenges for both the elderly individual and their family. Specialist counselling support can be hugely beneficial in working through emotional and relational issues early on, and ultimately improve mental health, wellbeing and social relationships in the long term.

How can we work through this important time together, in an effective, compassionate way?

This is something that each one of us has to face at some point in our lives, whether we ourselves are getting old, our partner, or a beloved parent or family member is aging. We have two choices: We can either wait until change is forced upon us, and react to it when we have to, or -

We can plan for it, in a supportive, healthy way, being honest with each other and listening to the perspectives of each other before coming to a decision.

Below I explore some of the common challenges faced during this process, and how having a counsellor specialised in managing change can assist you, and your loved ones, navigate this next life stage.

Effectively managing change to enable a smooth and compassionate transition

  • Emotional Adjustment

    For the Individual: leaving a home filled with memories can be heart-wrenching. The elderly person may feel a sense of loss and grief, mourning their independence and the familiarity of their personal space. This emotional turmoil can manifest as anxiety, depression, or resistance to the move.

    For the Family: family members often grapple with guilt and sadness. They worry about the person's emotional wellbeing and how they will adjust to a new environment. If the change is unplanned or sudden, these emotions can be compounded even further, leading to negative health and wellbeing outcomes.

  • Physical & Mental Health

    For the Individual: elderly individuals may have specific health needs that require attention during the move. The disruption of routine can exacerbate existing health conditions, and the stress of moving can impact physical and mental wellbeing.

    For the Family: families must navigate the healthcare system, understand care requirements, and ensure that the chosen location meets their needs. Research, consultations with healthcare professionals, and visits to potential facilities, can be time-consuming and overwhelming.

  • Financial Strain

    For the Individual: the cost of aged care can be substantial, and individuals might worry about depleting their savings or affording quality care. Understanding the financial implications and planning for long-term expenses is crucial, yet can be confusing and stressful.

    For the Family: family members often play a key role in managing the financial aspects, which can add significant pressure. They need to navigate insurance, government subsidies, and personal finances to ensure that their loved one receives the best possible care without compromising the family’s financial stability.

  • Social & Lifestyle

    For the Individual: adjusting to a new social environment can be challenging. Making new friends, adapting to communal living, and engaging in new activities require a period of adjustment. The fear of loneliness and isolation is a common concern.

    For the Family: families worry about their loved one's social wellbeing and the quality of life in a new place. They may also need to adjust their own routines to visit and support their loved one regularly, balancing this with their personal and professional responsibilities.

  • Legal & Administrative

    For the Individual: understanding the legal aspects of aged care, such as their rights and responsibilities and contracts, can be daunting. Elderly individuals may need assistance in ensuring their legal rights are protected.

    For the Family: family members must often step in to handle legalities, which can include power of attorney, guardianship, and healthcare directives. These responsibilities require careful consideration and legal guidance, adding another layer of complexity to the transition.

How Sarah can help

With academic qualifications in relationship counselling, grief and loss, conflict resolution and the process of working through change, I understand the emotional and psychological toll that relocation can have on both the elderly person and the family. Alongside my personal experience volunteering in the aged care sector, and caring for my own grandma, these are my reasons for working with families who are facing similar issues, and supporting them through this difficult time.

Planning for change early, and managing the potential issues that may arise, can prevent them from becoming significant challenges down the track. Often the very best therapy is having someone objective to talk to, providing a safe and confidential space to explore options and meaningful opportunities. A counsellor can help work through difficult emotions, understand different perspectives, and develop plans, making the process easier to navigate for all involved.

I provide sessions with individuals or families to understand your situation, talk through some of your challenges, explore your strengths, and discuss a way forward. I also spend time with people who have recently moved into aged care, about things they care about, their life experiences, and how to find meaning in their new environment. Feel free to get in touch for a confidential 15 minute conversation if you'd like to discuss how my services may support you.